Consider a tree for a moment. As beautiful as trees are to look at, we don't see what goes on underground - as they grow roots. Trees must develop deep roots in order to grow strong and produce their beauty. But we don't see the roots. We just see and enjoy the beauty. In much the same way, what goes on inside of us is like the roots of a tree. -Joyce Meyer We all know that one one person that walks in the room and causes silence. Not because they smell bad, or because their hair is just completely out of whack;but because of how beautiful they are. You just feel compelled to look at them. What I'm going to teach you today is how to appear that bountiful, how to draw positive attention to yourself. The first thing we need to understand is that beauty is an inward thing. It all starts with your mind, and how you perceive yourself. If you can make your perception of yourself shine outward ... then I guarantee that other people will start believing it. Let me give you an example. I had a friend that was not the best looking according to society at the time.What she did however, was say it. She said everyday "I'm so beautiful", she engraved it in our minds and soon enough we all started believing it. We started identifying her good qualities, and we realized that they far outweighed the bad. Now, I'm not saying that you should get full of yourself and start proclaiming you're beautiful every where you go. What I'm saying, is that it begins with your mind. The next thing we need to establish is the difference between the type of attention you attract. People either attract positive attraction, negative attractions or attractions of complete indifference. The type of attraction (I'm assuming) you want to attract is positive attraction. So here are your tips on just how to go about that: Mirror Talk
Have you ever watched those TV shoes or movies and seen the main character talking to themselves in the mirror? What I would like to propose to you my friend, is that they are not completely insane, and I would also like to suggest, that if they are insane, you join them in their insanity. Mirror talk is one of the best ways to motivate yourself. Before you go out to a job interview, or to a concert, or to meet your crush give yourself five minutes of mirror talk. Tell yourself, "you is kind, you is smart, you is important' or in layman terms "gas yuhself up". Those amazing people who walk into rooms and just completely draw all the attention; already have it in their minds that they are the 'it'. Now I need you,you beautiful child of God, to understand that you are the IT. No. Not the IT as in Pennywise, the IT, and if you're considering yourself the IT as in Pennywise the IT, please get that sorted out. The bottom line is reserve your mirror for five minutes everyday, and say something good about yourself. Even if it's one thing. Even if you have to think real hard. Just try it. And eventually, like how we believed my friend mentioned above. You will start to believe it too. That's your first tip to gaining Positive Attraction. The Walk
Now, although we would like to think that our way of walking has nothing to do with how we are perceived. I have sad news for you. It does. It has a whole lot. Imagine Beyoncé walking .Think of how confidence just seems to radiate off of her . We can all see it in how she flashes her hair, how she sways her hips, the way in which one foot is placed directly in front of the other(Upcoming Post. How exactly to walk in heels). We also see it in her eyes. Now compare this to how you walk. Do you slouch? Is there is a 'pep in your step'? Do you even look like you want to be here right now. Imagine if you were sitting in a room and you and Beyoncé entered at the same time. Who would command the attention? Be honest with yourself. Now I know we won't all walk like supermodels, but let start with the basics. Your posture. Keep constantly reminding yourself to walk upright. Only look down to ensure your shoes are still intact and looking cute. That's your second tip. Style of Dressing
That extremely beautiful person who just walked in the room does not have on a paper bag, They did not buy some Plastiagos from Tweisha, nor are they naked. The best way to attract positive attention is by your style of dressing. This determines the attitude people have towards you, how they speak to you and just generally how they treat you. The next time you're going out wear something cute and modest. Be fashionable. Make a statement (More tips on that type of fashion coming up soon ). Yes believe it or not you do not have to show the world your kidneys in order to attract attention. Positive attention comes best with modesty. Think about the type of crowd your trying to attract. Do you want to attract rowdy men going 'Psttt' or gentlemen opening doors. Be honest with yourself. Of course it is an free world and you can wear what you wan't. But remember there are consequences to your actions and some people just can't help themselves. That's your last tip. Thank you so much for reading.Please remember to share this post with your friends and family and follow me on social media. Looking forward to talking some more!
The beautiful lady in the cover picture is Deddeh Howard.